It’s Not All Mary Poppins


The first day of my holidays. Spent most of it helping my brother move, and, as far as moves goes, it went very smoothly. Seems I impressed the socks off my sister-in-law’s dad (my brother’s father-in-law, too!) with my lifting prowess. See my muscles??

Not what they used to be, really, at all. I gave up going to the gym – all you dedicated parents will understand this – because it took too much time away from being with my daughter. I need one that opens EARLY in the morning. If I can’t do it before work, I have to go in the evenings, and my youngest, who just turned twelve, is at that oh, so delightful stage where she craves mummy time. I know this stage is fleeting. In another year or so her focus will shift outside the house, and I don’t want to miss these last precious months: “Just a minute, dear…not right now, dear…later on, sweetie…hang on a sec, love…” and then, when I have that spare minute, she’ll be gone. Can’t let that happen.

So I’m spending time with my sweet daughter and losing my muscle tone. A friend suggested I find a gym she can go to as well. Great idea!! I discovered that any gym that offers weight training, which is what I do, has a standard policy against children under the age of fifteen or so entering the premises. Insurance issues, I’m sure. That leaves me with aerobics, which I hate, hate, hate, and besides, since my son was born (4400 grams/ 9 lb 10 – in 87 minutes of labour) I can’t bounce, jump, or even jiggle too strenuously without peeing myself. *Sigh*. I’m considering surgery for this one. All the Kegels in the world haven’t fixed it.

So, scratch the aerobics. (Yay!)
Can’t go to weight gym for a while. (Boo!)

I can work out with the free weights I have at home, and go for long walks. It’s a compromise. It’s even a sacrifice, but Emma is worth it!

And tomorrow I’ll start my archive posting.

July 31, 2005 - Posted by | holidays, my kids


  1. I have a 12 yr old daughter too. She’s in both stages-she’s still clingy and wants to be mommas girl, but if that doorbell rings its like a light goes off and she remembers she has friends out there..and leaves. Enjoy your daughter..I know I am.
    Yah, I’ll pass on the gym thing too. Pfft @ the very idea of workin out. LOL.

    Comment by kimmyk | July 31, 2005 | Reply

  2. Ugh, I’m waiting for my 2 year contract to run out so I can quit feeling guilty about not going. I’d rather run around the yard with Lauren.

    I love how you speak of your youngest daughter. You have the wisdom and foresight to know that it’s best to spend this time with her now, when she wants it, rather than wistfully longing for it when it’s too late. She’s only got another 6 years in the home, right? 6 years is a blink.

    My mom had a bladder tuck (or whatever it’s called) when she had a hysterectomy. She had only one regret – that she hadn’t done it sooner. Best of luck!

    Comment by ieatcrayonz | July 31, 2005 | Reply

  3. Emma’s like that too. She’s the youngest of my three (19girl, 16boy, and Emma), and by far the most social. So far she enjoys both parts of her world thoroughly. She loves time with me, and, just as you say, that doorbell rings and – poof! – she’s out that door! But so far she’s maintaining a nice balance. It won’t last, of course. All a necessary part of that breaking away, growing up thing. She’s in a precious phase, though, not to be frittered away on non-essentials like gym memberships.

    Comment by Mary P. | July 31, 2005 | Reply

  4. KimmyK: p.s. Oh, and welcome by!

    Crayonz: How much longer till it expires? Will you start baby number two then? (You’d said something earlier, I think, about staying home full-time when you had a second.)

    Any wisdom I have in this area is that of experience, taught me the hard way by my two older kids! Who are great kids, by the way, I must underline that clearly. Any problems were largely, though by no means entirely, of my own making: I was naive about how adolescence hits them, and totally unprepared with my first. (Aren’t we all? That first kid is one giant experiment in parenting…)

    Comment by Mary P. | July 31, 2005 | Reply

  5. I am totally with you on the nearly 10 lb. boy baby. Though mine ended up a c-section because my pelvis wasn’t big enough to allow him passage, I can see how Kegels wouldn’t do you a darned bit of good!

    I’ll be sure to consult you when my boy starts puberty…I’m suspicious that it’s happening now. He’s eight-and-a-half, and I’ve read that the pre stuff starts happening now. Sure would explain where my sweet little boy got off to.

    Comment by misfit | July 31, 2005 | Reply

  6. Don’t they have a YMCA near you? The Y is a great place to work out and they are family oriented. And I’m not just saying that because I work for the Y!

    Comment by Matthew | July 31, 2005 | Reply

  7. Mary P. – It runs out this coming January. YEAH! I do like the place, it’s got a little nook for kids to play, but Lauren is just too young to keep herself entertained.

    Goodness, #2 plans have got me all confused. I’d love to have the kiddos no more than 2-4 years apart, but quitting my job doesn’t look feasible any time soon. It sucks. I’m still working on budgeting it.

    Comment by ieatcrayonz | July 31, 2005 | Reply

  8. I wish I had a daughter so I’d have a good “reason” not to work out! Actually, I wish it for a lot of other reasons too . . . .

    I love reading about the kiddos, but feel I hardly know you except through them. Hoping to see some posts about your life this month too!

    Comment by Sharkey | July 31, 2005 | Reply

  9. Matthew: yes, we have a Y, and it’s not far. Closer than my favourite coffee shop! But it’s expensive: first the membership, then the fee per program. Or am I mistaken?

    Crayonz: you can take your kids to work? How cool is that! And budgeting…*sigh*…Money may not buy happiness, but it sure does increase your range of choices – or it would, if you had it…

    Sharkey: Interested in my life? Really? (No, I’m not particularly modest, I just hadn’t constructed this blog with that thought in mind.) There’s no reason I couldn’t go on about myself, at least a bit. Okay, I’ll see what I can do.

    Comment by Mary P. | August 1, 2005 | Reply

  10. “you can take your kids to work?”

    Whoa, lady! I wish! I can take Lauren with me when I work out at the gym. 😉

    Comment by ieatcrayonz | August 1, 2005 | Reply

  11. The Y is not as expensive as you might think. They are a registered charity so if you can prove that your bills exceed your income to some degree (not making any asumptions here), then they will work a deal with you (why, because to keep the charitable status they have to).

    Proof – My wife and I pay $15 CDN a month.
    We took in income statements and bills and voila we got a subsudized membership ! yee haw !

    Go to the Y

    W the CC

    Comment by Anonymous | August 3, 2005 | Reply

  12. WtCC: thanks for the tip. I have all that info at my fingertips, being self-employed. I’ll just tip out the cookie tin of unfiled receipts, and – hey! Oh, damn. Another organizational task for my holidays…

    Comment by Mary P. | August 3, 2005 | Reply

  13. OOPs sorry about that! I did not mean to add a task to your vacation.

    I hope your Brother appreciated the help you gave him move (If he didn’t he’s a Dork)

    W the CC

    Comment by Anonymous | August 4, 2005 | Reply

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