It’s Not All Mary Poppins

Progress Report

This morning I put on my own socks!!! This afternoon, I sat, on a stool, for twelve minutes!!

I am so excited.

January 22, 2006 Posted by | commemoration, the dark side | 3 Comments

Romantic Meme

Queen Bee tagged me on Thursday. Here we go!

1. The tagged victim has to come up with 8 different points of their perfect lover.

2. Need to mention the sex of the target.

3. Tag 8 victims to join this game & leave a comment on their comments saying they’ve been tagged.

4. If tagged the 2nd time, there’s no need to post again.

Sex: male

Eight characteristics of my perfect lover. (Not that I believe such a thing exists…)

Let me think. Physical characteristics are generally unimportant. I tend to particularly love the aspects of my special man because they’re particular to him. So if he’s my height, I love that I can make eye contact with him; if he were tall, I’d love that I fit so neatly under his arm. I actively love attributes that are not in the “good looking” category – a particular stoop of the shoulders, say, or a bit of a round tummy – because they are “him”. Except weight: He doesn’t have to be buff and hollywood perfect, (I’m certainly not!), but obesity is a huge turn-off.

1. Conversation, for me, is the life-blood of a relationship. He must, must, must be able to converse. This means talking and listening, sharing ideas, building concepts together. I see conversation as a shared creative act, not a mere matter of taking anecdotal turns. This also means he must be at least as intelligent as me.

2. Be emotionally aware and able to speak intelligently of his feelings. (For many years I thought this was simply fantasy, something I could only get from female friends. To my utter delight, I have discovered that there is one such man on the planet!)

3. Be able to disagree respectfully. He must believe, as I do, that conflicts, handled properly, are portals to a closer relationship.

4. Be capable of nurturing. (Me, children, fuzzy bunnies…) Not that I need or want a daddy instead of a partner, but everyone likes to be nurtured from time to time.

5. Be respectful of me and my strengths. Be aware of my weaknesses without contempt.

6. Be able to laugh at himself.

7. Love me to distraction.

8. Be able and willing to hold his own in a conflict when needful, but deplore violence.

You know what? I’ve found all these. All in the same man! Took me twelve years in an increasingly bad marriage, and a little exploration along the way, but I’ve landed with the perfect man for me. I am so lucky.

As for who I’ll tag, I’ll do this the way I always do these things: if you want to do this one, just let me know in the comments section, and we’ll all troop over to your place and check it out!

January 22, 2006 Posted by | memes and quizzes | 6 Comments