It’s Not All Mary Poppins

Tact and the Daycarista

“Darcy, my father made this for me!” Arthur chirrups. The boys are playing with a toolbox filled with toy tools, many of which are handmade from wood. Arthur’s father, you see, is a carpenter as well as a contractor.

“My father made this for me!” Arthur is pleased and proud. Darcy leans over the block he is “sawing”. “My father made this for me!” Arthur repeats.

“Uh-huh,” Darcy nods.

Evidently Darcy’s response is lacking the requisite enthusiasm. Arthur looks up at me. “Mary, tell Darcy that my father made this for me.”

“You’ve already told him three times, bud. I’m sure he knows.”

Not good enough. Arthur tries again. “Darcy, my father made this for me!”

Darcy just looks at Arthur. He said “uh-huh”. What more does this kid want? I decide to see if I can reassure Arthur that he has indeed been heard.

“Darcy, do you know who made this for Arthur?” I ask.

Darcy gives me a long, steady, “are you kidding me?” look. “His father made it.”

“See, Arthur? Darcy knows.”

“Darcy, my father made this for me! Did you know that my father made this for me?”

Tonight, I will tell Arthur’s dad, “Arthur is so proud of that toolbox you made for him, he just can’t say enough about it!”

March 31, 2006 - Posted by | Arthur, Darcy, parents, the dark side


  1. I’ll bet he was looking for Darcy to say, “Wow! That’s great! Your dad made this for you? Wow! How cool!”

    Arthur’s an only child, isn’t he? So he’s kinda used to being fawned over? And having ALL of the attention?

    Comment by Candace | March 31, 2006 | Reply

  2. I admire Darcy’s patience. If it had been me, I probably would have yelled, “I KNOW”, and smacked him one after the twelfth time he said it. Then, Darcy always has been very mild mannered.

    Comment by Haley | March 31, 2006 | Reply

  3. I have to remember, even at the girls’ age, to be very enthusiastic.

    Comment by Granny | March 31, 2006 | Reply

  4. Darcy is just a boy of few words, isn’t he? Five of them being, “We goin-a see the dinosaurs?”

    Comment by kittenpie | March 31, 2006 | Reply

  5. oh ooops – wrong one from below. Um, I can only suppose3 that maybe he was silent in the way that keeps you from saying, “yes yes YES! I KNOW!!!” though I doubt he has that kind of restraint like we do…

    Comment by kittenpie | March 31, 2006 | Reply

  6. Clever Arthurs dad. I think he had every right to expect some enthusiasm from his friends. I’m impressed that his dad made them for him!

    Comment by MrsAginoth | March 31, 2006 | Reply

  7. LOL, there’s that Arthur. I’d been waiting for an Arthur story for a while. Bryce is so, so similar…although after the first time, he would have chosen a different way to say it, or would have directly said, “isn’t that so cool?!” or something to fish the exact response he wanted. Funny, though.

    Comment by Kristen | March 31, 2006 | Reply

  8. I pink puffy heart Darcy. Today, anyway. Yesterday I would have cheerfully strangled him.

    Comment by MsSisyphus | March 31, 2006 | Reply

  9. Candace: You’re so right: that’s exactly what he was after – and of course we did just exactly that when he brought the thing. All gathered round and ooh’ed and ah’ed over it. Because it was very, very cool.

    In fact Arthur is the FOURTH child! Except that the older siblings are 18, 20, and 23, so he doesn’t have two parents and three sibs, he has FIVE doting parents… And dote they do.

    Haley: Yup, Darcy is a patient little dude. One of the many things I like about him. I don’t think I’ve ever seen him hit someone. Body check them, yes; hit, no.

    Granny: Because they need to have their enthusiasms acknowledged. They really do.

    Kittenpie: Unlike 99.9% of toddlers, Darcy is not a creature of impulse. I used to think Darcy was a little slow on the uptake, but this is not true at all: it’s not that he’s slow, it’s that he pauses before responding. This is a good thing!

    MrsA: He has an involved and affectionate dad, for sure. And, as I commented to Candace, above, Arthur got lots of attention for the toolbox. Some of the things in there are very clever. My favourite is the hacksaw fashioned from wood. It was a pretty thing, as well as sturdy. You’d pay a good price in many upscale toy shops for such a solid, well-made, hand-crafted toy.

    Kristen: Sounds like Bryce, though having similar motivations, is a little more socially skilled than our Arthur.

    MsS: Ah, the ebb and flow of human interactions. On balance, Darcy is eminently more hug-able than throttle-able.

    Comment by Mary P. | March 31, 2006 | Reply

  10. I’m thinking that this conversation with Arthur is karmic payback for the trip to the museum.

    Comment by MsSisyphus | March 31, 2006 | Reply

  11. he’s so excited….i love that when theyre just excited…for about 10 min. then they gotta stop. LOL.

    Comment by kimmyk | April 1, 2006 | Reply

  12. MsS: Karmic payback. I like it!

    Kimmyk: LOL I’m the same way about fussing for small injuries. They get three minutes of sympathy and cuddling, then they’re expected to suck it up and move on!

    Comment by Mary P. | April 1, 2006 | Reply

  13. I think it’s really, really sweet that Arthur is so appreciative that his dad made something for him. That sweetness would outdo the annoyance for me. 🙂 Of course, I wasn’t there…

    Comment by Cheryl | April 2, 2006 | Reply

  14. Oh please do tell Daddy how much the tool set means to Arthur! And please also make sure that Arthur knows that it’s a cool thing.

    These are the small things that stick with a child. Sort of a sweet “My father can beat up your father” type of thing!

    Comment by Andie D. | April 2, 2006 | Reply

  15. Your latest post – best wishes – Be safe and I’ll see you when you get back.

    Comment by Granny | April 2, 2006 | Reply

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