It’s Not All Mary Poppins

I’m Getting Married in the…


A mere ten years after the proposal, I have finally accepted. Doesn’t do to rush these things. Which is why we’re getting married in…May. In about ten weeks.

Do not expect… pew ribbons, bouquets, corsages, boutonnieres, favours, bows, banners, flower girls, basket of rose petals, ring bearers, ring pillow, exotic honeymoon, cathedral wedding, big white dress, veil, train, tuxedos, aisle runner, an aisle, rice, confetti, bubbles, silk, satin, cummerbunds, white linen tablecloths, printed napkins, crystal, master of ceremonies, father of the bride, groomsmen, bridesmaids, matching dresses, matching shoes, spaghetti straps, first dance, garter, bouquet-throwing, reception hall, mother-of-the-bride dress, champagne, “Cherish”, save the date cards, organ music, gift registry, crystal patterns, china patterns, flatware patterns, any patterns at all, programs, place cards, videographer, limousine, heart-shaped mirrors, heart-sprinkled napkins, heart-monogrammed invitations, in fact, no hearts at all, newspaper announcement (I have a blog!), engagement party, mother-son or father-daughter dance, unity candles, kneeling bench, altar arrangements (nor altar)….Nor any of the other gazillion non-essential ‘essentials’.

There may be a cake. Possibly a rehearsal dinner.

There will be invitations (without a save the date card, and no seals on it, thanks to my graphic designer sis-in-law), and a guest book (but no fake-feather pen), a bartender (hello, Hope!), and photographer (Heya, brother-in-law!), and live music (Sheila, John, Tom), and an officiant (as yet unbooked), and rings (which we’ve been wearing for ten years now).

There will definitely be family, friends, food, drink, laughter, sincerity, faith and love.

Happy Wedding to me us.

March 16, 2007 - Posted by | commemoration, individuality, wedding


  1. Oh, wow! Congrats! That’s exciting and a great celebration of love, even (especially?) without all the froo-froo trimmings.

    I agree with you about not rushing things, either! Mr. Kluges and I took our time about it, knowing each other as friends, then dating for years, then getting engaged & finally getting married after a couple of years. I felt like I knew what I was getting into, and so did he!

    So, Happy Wedding to You!!!

    Comment by Ms. Huis Herself | March 16, 2007 | Reply

  2. Congratulations! I hope your next ten (twenty, thirty, forty, etc) years will be as happy and harmonious as the last ten!

    Comment by Heath | March 16, 2007 | Reply

  3. Ooo! Have a great time and congratulations! I hope it is everything you want in a wedding and nothing that you don’t.

    P.S. What about the bride’s garter belt?

    Comment by Chelsea | March 16, 2007 | Reply

  4. Fabulous, and congratulations!

    There are times that I wish I’d waited a bit longer (we’d been together — gasp — three months), but ten years is really impressive.

    It sounds to me like your wedding/party would be a ball. Ours was basically a big ol’ dinner party with an open bar, interrupted briefly by a ceremony. If I had the wedding to do over again, I doubt I’d change a thing.


    Comment by Allison | March 16, 2007 | Reply

  5. Ooh! Congratulations!

    Comment by Lolly | March 16, 2007 | Reply

  6. Well, congratulations for setting a date 🙂

    Comment by laura | March 16, 2007 | Reply

  7. Many congratulations!

    Comment by Sheree | March 16, 2007 | Reply

  8. Congratulations and way to go for doing it your way. We planned most of our wedding a few weeks before it happened (much to the stress and chagrin of my planaholic mom) and it couldn’t have been better. The flowers were even chosen the day before and we showed up not even knowing if there was music. Stress and hoopla suck all of the fun out of it! Do it your way!

    Comment by kate | March 16, 2007 | Reply

  9. Sounds wonderful, Mary. Best wishes!

    Comment by Sharkey | March 16, 2007 | Reply

  10. This is so exciting. Congratulations.

    Comment by Peter | March 16, 2007 | Reply

  11. EEP! i squealed aloud when i read this. that is so exciting for you both. huge congratulations and big squishy hugs! 🙂

    Comment by lara | March 16, 2007 | Reply

  12. Congratulations!!! Will there be a YouTube video? 😀

    Comment by Kat | March 16, 2007 | Reply

  13. Oh, congratulations!

    Comment by majorbedhead | March 16, 2007 | Reply

  14. hahaha, congratulations on cutting out all the boring parts of a wedding 😀 Sounds like it’ll be a great get-together.

    Comment by Joel | March 16, 2007 | Reply

  15. goooooooooin’ to the chapel and we’re… gonnnnnnnaaaaa get maaaaaarrriiiiied.


    Comment by SassyStudent | March 16, 2007 | Reply

  16. Congratulations!! 🙂

    Comment by Karin | March 16, 2007 | Reply

  17. Congratulations again! You covered ribbons, right? No ribbons.

    But, if you’d reconsider the flower girl thing, Sophie is DYING to be one. Seriously, she says she’ll just DIE if she doesn’t EVER get to be a flower girl.

    Drama queen, that one.

    Comment by candace | March 16, 2007 | Reply

  18. What is it with ‘save the date’ cards? I’ve never heard of them before and now twice on one day.


    Comment by z | March 17, 2007 | Reply

  19. I second the request for a YouTube video. 😉 Congratulations!

    Comment by Lady M | March 17, 2007 | Reply

  20. May you have a happy wedding, and a happily-ever-after.

    Comment by Judy | March 17, 2007 | Reply

  21. congratulations!

    Comment by Karyn | March 17, 2007 | Reply

  22. But there will be a “You may now kiss the bride” moment, right? That’s my only opportunity to make a small scene.

    Comment by Stephen | March 17, 2007 | Reply

  23. congratulations! never been married myself so didnt know what half the things you mentioned were anyway!!! sounds fantastic, have an amazing time, we need lots of pics and I third the request for an embedded video!

    Comment by jenny uk | March 17, 2007 | Reply

  24. A big congratulations to both of you! I have to admit that I’m a bit curious what made you decide to accept now.

    Comment by aaron | March 17, 2007 | Reply

  25. I won’t bore you with my entire wedding story but as I was getting on the bus in San Francisco almost 18 years ago (to go to work), I turned to Ray and said “how does Reno grab you?”.

    The bus doors closed before he could reply.

    He went back home and told my son Tim we’d better get packed.

    Congratulations and my very best wishes to all of you.

    Comment by Granny | March 17, 2007 | Reply

  26. Who hoo!

    I too want to know why you decided to marry now. Is there a bun in the oven Mary? 😀

    Comment by Andie D. | March 17, 2007 | Reply

  27. Congratulations. I like the YouTube idea too…but you’d have to have a video to have YouTube. We’ll settle for pictures.

    Comment by Darren a/k/a Clare's Dad | March 17, 2007 | Reply

  28. Congrats. Hope it’s a wonderful day for you all.

    Comment by juggling mother | March 18, 2007 | Reply

  29. Thank you, all.

    (No, Andie, I’m not pregnant. Sheesh.) 😛

    Darren is quite right: no ‘videographer’ means no video, means no YouTube. Sorry! Pictures? We’ll have to see. But maybe you are all picturing me young and slim and hip. I wouldn’t want to spoil the illusion…

    Comment by MaryP | March 18, 2007 | Reply

  30. Stephen, my love. Maybe, for this very special occaision, I will be the one making the PDA* scene. You never know.

    *(For those not in the know, that’s Public Display of Affection.)

    Comment by MaryP | March 18, 2007 | Reply

  31. Hey! Congratulations. Finally decided to make an honest man of him, huh? ;^)

    A simple, personally meaningful wedding is a nice thing, I think. And May is a nice time to marry… I hope it’s just how you want it.

    Comment by kittenpie | March 18, 2007 | Reply

  32. Congrats! I think if I were to marry again, I’d do it all differently. No poufy dress. No stupid “traditions”. Just a keg, a beach, and lots of friends.

    Comment by Tammy | March 18, 2007 | Reply

  33. Congratulations — may the celebrations be merry and right! Happy for you both.

    Comment by mo-wo | March 19, 2007 | Reply

  34. I’ll chime in with my congrats too. But, I protest, you’ve got to have a cake! Cake is the main reason to have a wedding in the first place, right? It’s the main reason I attend them, at least.

    Comment by ktjrdn | March 19, 2007 | Reply

  35. Awww, congrats! 🙂 Love the plan, simple & sweet!

    Comment by bluebunny | March 19, 2007 | Reply

  36. Congratulations, and best wishes to you both.

    Comment by abogada | March 19, 2007 | Reply

  37. Congrats, Mary! You deserve the best. Apparently, he thinks he does, too! 🙂

    Comment by stefanierj | March 19, 2007 | Reply

  38. Oh, such happy news! Congratulations to the two of you. There may be cake? May be? In my book, it’s all about the food. Big fan of cake here!

    At any rate, whoo-hoo! You must be all smiles, and I know he is!

    Comment by mamacita tina | March 19, 2007 | Reply

  39. Congratulations!! Do what you want to do. Our wedding had more frills but it was exactly what we wanted.
    May it be exactly as you wish it to be. So happy for you!!

    Comment by Dani | March 19, 2007 | Reply

  40. Congratulations! Mazel tov! Best wishes!

    Comment by Michael (a.k.a. Snaars) | March 19, 2007 | Reply

  41. Hey, thanks, I’m feeling a lot better. My significant other gave me a lovely ring two years ago. A ring I refer to as “the someday ring”. As in this means we have now come to the agreement that someday we will get married and someday we will set a date. No need to rush these things.

    Comment by AA | March 20, 2007 | Reply

  42. CONGRATULATIONS!!! I know it will be a lovely day!

    Comment by LoryKC | March 25, 2007 | Reply

  43. Wow, congrats are in order I suppose? I know it’s a lttle late, but still, I am happy for you, my big day is next year! I pray that you and the hubby are even happier than you were ten years ago!!! God bless you both.

    Comment by Lana | June 18, 2008 | Reply

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