It’s Not All Mary Poppins


My calendar informs me that today is No Hitting Day. But of course! At Mary’s house, EVERY day is No Hitting Day. Because at Mary’s house, we Use Our Words.

For that matter, every day at Mary’s house is also No Whining Day, and No Biting Day, No Stealing Toys day, and No Sticking Your Finger Up Your Friend’s Nose day.

April 30, 2010 - Posted by | aggression


  1. You forgot “no pooping on the ground day” which is every day at my house, at least since September 2002.

    September 2002 is a red-letter month on your maternal calendar? Happily, apart from the occasional little nugget that escapes a diaper as I change a child on the floor, I have never had poop on my floor, and so, no occasion to institute that particular rule. For which I am very grateful…

    Comment by Bridgett | April 30, 2010 | Reply

  2. Nice! Good timing, too, since Gavin got time-outs both yesterday evening (hitting followed by hair-pulling) and this morning (hitting only). To his credit, he’s getting to be good at telling Maya he’s sorry. (sigh) On a third infraction this morning (extremely minor), he suggested a time out before I was even done investigating the incident.

    Gavin is taking the “easier to get forgiveness than permission” approach, huh? Well, not quite, but it’s reminiscent, isn’t it? Still, he seems to be getting it — good for him! (And for you, for being consistent enough that he can see the pattern.) At any rate, he’s getting the ‘consequences’ part of it. Now if only he could manage to avoid the behaviour that leads to the consequence!

    Comment by Allison | April 30, 2010 | Reply

  3. How do you do no whining days???? Tell me the secret. Honest, I’m at the end of my tether with that one (pretty good on the rest).

    I know I’ve written on that before, but it was a while ago. Time for a refresher!

    Comment by cartside | April 30, 2010 | Reply

  4. Agreed to all of those and I’d add No Screaming Day. We nipped that one right in the bud.

    I cannot abide screaming. Or whining.

    Me, neither. Negative noise really, really, really grates on auditory me! Besides, they’re both just habits, and bad ones, that can be unlearned and replaced with better ones. Because if you think a whiny/screamy toddler is bad, just wait till you’re sitting around the Thanksgiving table with a bunch of whiny/screamy adults. Ugh.

    Comment by Candace | April 30, 2010 | Reply

    • Don’t I know it. I think the name of my book is going to be ‘Insufferable Children Grow Up To Be Insufferable Adults.’

      Comment by Candace | May 1, 2010 | Reply

  5. You forgot No Tattleing Day, my personal wish for everyone who deals with preschoolers. Want to throw chairs? Go right ahead.(My Center had an interesting population.) I’ll cope. But Do Not Tattle!

    Comment by jwg | May 1, 2010 | Reply

  6. Any advice for just loud children? My son doesn’t scream but he has no volume control, he’s just LOUD. Add to that he never stops talking and occasionally I want to just run away.

    Comment by Dani | May 3, 2010 | Reply

  7. Speaking of hitting and forms of aggression, could you write a post about different parenting styles and what to do when your style clashes with another parent.

    Ie, their kids hits/kicks/pushes your kid and they don’t “parent” the situation the same way you would. And not babies by the way, who have almost no impulse control, but 3 and 4 year old kids. Thanks !

    Comment by Tammy | May 3, 2010 | Reply

  8. The no whining rule is the most important. Makes me almost forget about the no hitting sometimes. (Doesn’t really. Just gets me so frustrated.)

    Comment by Mwa | May 4, 2010 | Reply

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